There are many little intricate ways in which we guide ourselves either closer to or farther away from our goals. I take issue with the buzzword “Resolution” so I refer to them simply as goals. So let’s take a look at how we can all start to be SMART about forming our goals for 2019 so we can krump our way to success.
Studies tell us that these are the things that the vast majority of us are going to want to accomplish over the next year:
- Lose Weight/Get Fit
- Spend time with humans we care about
- Learn to enjoy our pathetically normal lives
- Stop inhaling fumes that cause direct harm to our bodies
- Stop spending money we don’t have on things we don’t need
- Make more money
- Find love in a hopeless place
Studies also tell us that only about 12- 20% of us will actually achieve real success with any of these “resolutions”… which is a bothersome statistic. Especially because these proposed goals are all not only reasonable but should be attainable for most of us.
It’s not like we’re all starting out as Britney Spears shaved head era and then expecting to be as woke as Eckhart Tolle or Deepak Chopra by the end of the year…. I mean I certainly am, but hopefully you guys aren’t.
Realistically, it seems like most of us are just trying to figure out ways to not get so worked up that we rip off the calloused skin around our nails every time we discover that we have to go to the DMV. We really just want to find comfort in our own normalcy, spend more time with other weirdos who get us, have the ability to occasionally overspend on vegan pizza at Whole Foods, and limit the amount of subcutaneous fat we have on our bodies (except for our butt’s – we want extra there) and to stop administering various poisons to ourselves. That’s really it.
So in an effort to get us all started on the right path, I’ve compiled a list of 5 tools to help us on our way to success in 2019!
Think Of Your Desires As Goals, Not Resolutions
Thinking of your desires as “resolutions” in the first place, can be problematic. The implicit meaning in the word “resolution” is to solve (resolve) a problem. And when we are looking to solve a problem, we generally do so with the idea of expediency in mind from the get-go. I am going to resolve this thing quickly and get to steppin. This is problematic because 75% of us have long-term goals that inherently require long-term commitment. And when you don’t mentally categorize these goals appropriately, you mislead your very attentive subconscious.
So if the areas you’d like to improve upon (weird arm flab/stomach pooch, inclination to overspend on drugs, a usury education system, Yeezy’s, and bar tabs for girls that likely won’t hook up with you) largely require a long-term commitment to forming and maintaining new habits and perspectives, than it’s appropriate to frame these lifestyle changes as the long-term goals they are. Thus, they are goals not resolutions.
Develop New Habits
We all have bad habits and those are the things that have contributed greatly to our lack of goal success. So the idea is to jelly-fish away from our unhelpful habits that are inhibiting us from reaching our goals and replace them with beneficial habits that guide us towards our goals.
How many days does it take to break or form a habit?
Contrary to popular belief there is no uniform timeline, such as 21, 30, or 66 days, that will magically break you of your unhelpful habit. Every human is unique and our respective timelines are reflective of that. That being said, it probably helps your psyche to set up goal posts after a set amount of time has passed. So you can say: Instead of going into the kitchen and finding things to shove in my mouth every time I have writer’s block, I will do something athletic instead (go on a quick 5 minute walk outside, dribble a basketball, dance etc). I commit to doing this for the next 21 days. And then after that point, you can reassess and review, understanding that you may require more time and that there is nothing “wrong” with you.
Try New Things
If something isn’t working, try something else. If you have been consistently running for a couple of weeks and it just does not inspire you, try something else. Even if it’s within the sphere of running, maybe do variations of speed and energy exerted. I read a few yoked-out trainer blogs back in the day where they broke their running into smaller segments: 60 second jog, 30 second run, 15 second sprint, and so on and so forth. Or maybe you just hate running. I get it. Try another form of cardio like biking, swimming, stair-master, elliptical, or even some type of interval training. The point is to try new things until you find a process that works and ride that out.
Enjoy the Process
Enjoyment Matters – If there are immediate rewards associated with the new habits you form, you are more likely to stick with them. The idea is to develop a process that you enjoy or at the very least to find enjoyable aspects of the process to make it sustainable. Try setting up a system in which you reward yourself in some way, at each goal post that you assign.
Find Another Weirdo To Hold You Accountable
When we have a source outside of ourselves that holds us accountable for our goals, we are more likely to achieve them. You can start by simply communicating your goals to one of your friends, family members, or co-workers. If you want to take it a step further, you can ask them to check in with you (and likewise) to see where you are at. There are also a ton of really great apps out there that can help you with the accountability aspect of goal attainment.